Our inner monologue holds more power than we might want to admit. It’s easy to get caught in a web of self-doubt or feeling inadequate.
Don't allow your negative thoughts to manifest into reality
If we aren’t careful, it is easy to allow what we think about ourselves to manifest itself into reality. Thankfully, it doesn’t need to be this way. We can rise above negative thoughts and emotions, reflect on our actual capabilities, and realize that we can actually achieve all of our goals.
Breaking the cycle of negative self-talk begins with a commitment to becoming deeply aware of your inner thoughts. Start paying attention to what you’re thinking about at work, at the gym, at home, or with friends. Understand that just because you feel something, doesn’t mean it’s true. Our thoughts are often biased and exaggerated. When little feelings of self-doubt creep in, remind yourself of something else more positive that is true about yourself.
Stay positive by being your own cheerleader
Feeling like you can’t ace that interview? Remind yourself that you got offered the opportunity in the first place! Rough parenting day make you wonder if you are doing a good job? Remind yourself that your children are uniquely given to you – no one else could be their parent. Overwhelmed with responsibilities at work? Remind yourself about all the projects you have aced or a compliment you received recently.
We all make mistakes. We all have bad days. The bad can often seem like it outweighs the good. Practicing affirming yourself can help remind you that you are capable, even when you might not feel that way. Write down positive affirmations to yourself on sticky notes, then leave them in places where you find negative thoughts frequently creeping in – your bathroom mirror, desk, steering wheel. Seeing those positive words will help tangibly counter those negative feelings.
Beat your inner critic by being someone else's cheerleader
One of the best ways to beat your inner critic is becoming an incredible cheerleader to others. Build others up! Give out as many compliments as possible. Noticing the good in other people, then telling them so makes you feel good. Surround yourself with positive people and contribute positivity as well. Not only will you uplift others, but it will also help you feel more positive about yourself as well.
Be so busy improving yourself that you don't have time to criticize yourself
Accept that there is always room for self-improvement. Accept your flaws and love yourself, reminding yourself of all the ways you change, improve, and continue…. despite the inevitable failure. Failures simply provide an opportunity to try again. They do not define us.
Negative self-talk intrudes on everyone. Realizing that you are not alone in this struggle helps to silence the negative thoughts and make room for all the positive affirmation you deserve.